1. Before you fly (do this at home)
The single most important rule: set up everything that needs the open internet before you land, because once you're inside the Great Firewall it's far harder.
- Install and TEST a VPN on your phone and laptop now — many stop working once you're in China, so confirm yours connects before you go. See using Grindr & VPNs in China.
- Get a travel eSIM that routes data outside China — the simplest way to keep Google, WhatsApp, Instagram and the apps working with zero setup. See the best eSIM for China.
- Download your apps (Grindr, plus the local ones) before arrival; some aren't in Chinese app stores. See gay dating apps in China.
- Set up Alipay or WeChat Pay with your foreign card — China is effectively cashless. See how to pay in China.
- Sort your visa or visa-free entry and skim the gay China packing list.
2. The apps & meeting people (it's not Grindr)
Grindr works with a VPN, but the app locals actually use is Blued, and a huge amount of the scene runs on WeChat group chats rather than apps at all. Be patient, meet in public first, and guard your personal info. Read how WeChat runs the scene and how to meet gay locals.
3. Money, in one line
Set up Alipay or WeChat Pay (both link foreign cards now), use Didi for taxis, and keep a little cash as backup. Cards and cash are awkward; the apps are everything. Full detail: pay in China and what a trip costs.
4. Safety & discretion (read this twice)
Honest truth: violent anti-gay crime is rare and street safety is high — the real watch-outs are scams and the norm of discretion, not danger. Keep public affection low-key (it's reserved here even for straight couples), choose where you meet dates yourself, and never follow a match to an unknown bar.
- Is China safe for LGBTQ+ travellers? — the full picture
- Gay China travel scams — the dating-app bill trap and how to dodge it
- PDA & couples — what's actually fine in public
- Cruising safety — discreet, harm-reduction first
5. Sauna & club etiquette
Nights start late and run long. Pay a flat fee at sauna doors, mind consent and hygiene, watch your valuables, and remember venues open and close fast — always check it's still there. Guides: bathhouse etiquette, how a night out works, the best clubs, and the honest sauna directory.
6. Where to stay (discreetly)
Two men sharing a room is a non-event almost anywhere — carry your passport for the 60-second foreigner registration, and book a 大床房 (big-bed room) if you want one bed. See sharing a hotel room in China and the city hotel guides.
7. A few words of Mandarin go a long way
Even a little earns warmth. Grab the essentials in our gay traveller's Mandarin phrasebook.
8. Health & emergencies
Carry enough personal medication with a prescription, bring PrEP from home if you take it, and know that hospitals often want payment upfront — so travel insurance with good medical cover matters. See HIV & PrEP travel to China and travel insurance. China's general emergency number is 110 (police) / 120 (ambulance).
9. Where to go first
Chengdu (“Gaydu”) has the most relaxed mainland scene; Shanghai is the most cosmopolitan; Beijing is discreet but real; Taipei and Hong Kong are the most open in Greater China. Not sure? See which Chinese city is best, then build a route with the 10-day itinerary.
